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I’ve been writing a My Three Words post every year since 2013.
If you don’t know what it is all about, check out this post for context 👉 About My Three Words
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This was a challenging year to come up with three words because there are SO many things I want to work on and I also hate re-using words. But after, literally, two months of thinking about my words, I’ve found three that feel right.
One of the elements of my life that has emerged over the last few years is my interest in effective leadership. This past year was my biggest opportunity to grow as a leader. In 2017, I had a small team of less than 5 people. Now our team exceeds 30. While I do not directly oversee everyone in the agency, I feel as though it is my responsibility to be available to help each and every one of them succeed. It is my job to show up and be a calm and guiding force through the tough times and an amplifier of our successes during the good times.
I am hard at work learning as much as I can about how great leaders work. At the same time, I am solidifying my own frameworks and principles of leadership.
The outcome of this work has been writing and coaching. I am nearly halfway through my book on leadership, The Lovable Leader. I’m also coaching several different people on their own leadership journey.
This is one of the directions I want my career to take me. I love coaching others and helping them resolve conflicts effectively, or stand powerfully in their role able to motivate and mobilize their team members.
Seth Godin often talks about being a professional. “A Professional” is someone who shows up and does the work every day, because that is their job… it is what they get paid to do. But, just being paid for a job doesn’t make you a professional. You are a professional when you show up everyday, regardless of how you feel, or how much inspiration is running through your system.
I will remind myself that leadership is something I must exhibit day in and day out. In 2019, I’m making leadership a central theme and I’ll be talking and writing about it on a more regular basis.
In 2018, I wrote less, posted to social media less, and delivered less speaking engagements than any year since 2011. On the surface, not all of those things are bad. However, it doesn’t sit right with me.
I retreated and I got shaken.
I stopped believing that what I had to say mattered. I didn’t want to be just another voice. As a speaker, I’d been working my material and hit a point of paralysis. I’m part of a network of amazing speakers, I felt inadequate. As a content producer I wondered if in the sea of content flooding the web, does anyone really need what I have to offer, or care about my perspective?
The web makes validation a tricky minefield.
Because of followers counts, or engagement rates, or income (real or perceived), it can be daunting to even get in the game, or stay in the game. This is especially true if, like me, you perceived that so much of the “wrong” crap getting attention and validation. But, much like how I feel about Taylor Swift, perhaps I’m just not their audience… and my negativity and judgement is getting me nowhere.
Every single person who has ever succeeded, had to stop seeking validation or approval at some point.
So I decided to ask myself a different question:
How can I best use the skills I have to benefit and provide value to others?
My focus in 2019 is going to be about having the discipline to finish and deliver as much helpful and useful content as I have to offer. In many ways, I feel as though I’m starting over. I’m trying to rebuild my audience, create new speaking topics, and feel good about how I show up on stage or in my content by going all-in.
